Growing the Garden… Reason to Live

14th July, 2009 - Posted by L. John Mason -

Do you have a good reason to Live? Is there a motivation in your life that may help to keep you alive if you find yourself with a terminal illness? I have seen mothers with young children use their love of their children to fight off near death experiences. When asked why they chose to come back from their near death incident, they have answered they could not leave yet, knowing that their young children would be left to grow without them. This experience has surfaced when severe accidents and terminal illness was involved. Some people are ready to pass into the next consciousness and “let go” more easily. Some people fear death or for other reasons stubbornly hold on to living. I had a male client in his late thirties who had anger as a motivation to keep living years beyond his prognosis. His wife and younger children suffered the torment of living with this angry, frustrated husband/father. When he finally did let go, there was some relief felt by caregivers and family. In this particular case, his death defying behaviors were actually viewed as a torture for his family. Sad, but true.

Then there are people like my wife, Barbara. She is living beyond her prognosis. She appreciates and celebrates everyday she lives. One of her positive motivators is her passion for growing plants in her garden. Like the Winchester Mystery House, she continues to add more garden and she more plants every chance she gets. She rejoices with every blossom that develops. She celebrates every vegetable that matures in her vegetable garden. She has weeding projects and building projects that never seem to end. When she cuts her blossoming flowers and brings them inside for decorations in our home, you can feel her smile and the joy beaming. She takes all visitors on her garden tours to celebrate her creation and the sensations of life that these plants symbolize. The smiles and the joys seem to bolster her energies. This energy keeps her going for treatments and helps her maintain her exercise regimen. She keeps her focus on living and does not discuss her condition. She does not want to be known as a cancer patient. She does not want to define herself as struggling with a terminal illness. She does not want sympathy, she wants to bask in the light, joy, health, and happiness. She plans her future with dates of positive events with family and friends. She looks to the positive in the future and not gathering clouds.

If this is relevant to you or to someone you know, help them to bask in the light of life’s celebrations. Enjoy the happiness and joys in each new day. Focus on what is working and keep moving forward.

Thank you for your attention and your time. With my love and my challenge, please keep moving

closer to the light of unconditional love and higher consciousness… Find joy!